Behavioral Health Coaching with Nellie
Struggles we will Address:
Enrichment Skills We Will Foster
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Living your vocation as wife and mother
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Struggles with self-doubt and self-worth
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Defensive Loving (covertly closing off & shutting others out)
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Intimacy issues (spiritual, emotional, and sensual)
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Vestiges of already worked on and healed trauma
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Relational/Relationship struggles
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Issues with mild depression, fear, and anxiety
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Everyday life and how to better manage it
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Strengthening your prayer life
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Deepening the understanding and lived experience of your womanhood/daughterhood
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Living freely the joy of femininity through receptivity
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Expanding personally in your life the theological virtues (Faith, Hope, and Love)
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Vulnerability as the legacy of the feminine genius
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Greater growth in and capacity for discernment through the feminine gift of “penetrating intuition.” (St. Pope John Paul II)
Modalities Utilized
Catholic/Church teaching centered: Catechism of the Catholic Church, philosophies inspired and influenced by TOB, Saints – particularly St. Edith Stein, Carmelite and Ignatian Spirituality, Dr. Bob Schuchts, Fr. Bonafice Hicks, Sonja Corbitt, Johnnette Benkovic Williams, Unbound etc.
Cognitive Behavioral Inspired Techniques: What we believe, impacts what we feel, impacts behavior. If you believe a lie, you will feel the weight of that lie which is typically experienced as depression, fear, and anxiety. And when our mood is affected, we base our decisions on that mood, who’s origin is a lie. This often leads to enslavement to that depression and fear. But Jesus’ promise in John 8:32 is this “… you will know the truth and the truth will make you free.” RSVCE
Solution Focused Techniques: This is a goal-oriented approach to problem solving. The process utilized to reach a solution. We come to Jesus, ultimately, for this solution. We call out to Him as Bartimaeus did in Mark 10; Jesus us answers by calling us to him and asking “what do you want me to do for you?” Jesus is goal oriented as well. He always has a purpose in mind, so we follow His example.
EMDR Resourcing: The utilization of Bilateral stimulation to strengthen adaptive neuropathways that and make it more likely for you to engage in the thinking and behavior you really want. Romans 12:2 tells us to “…be transformed by the renewal of your mind” – this means that the renewal of our minds is possible. This truth matches up with the truth of solid neuroscience when it describes neuroplasticity. We can retrain our brains.
Polyvagal/Neuroceptive Informed: A lens that takes into account the Autonomic Nerves System’s (ANS) response to stress and assists with managing and ultimately strengthening the ANS so that recovery and restoration is achieved. Scientists who study the ANS tell us that a healthy ANS is flexible and has capacity. The ANS is designed by God to accompany us through difficult and stressful times and bring us back to baseline; really peace in Christ.
Somatic Psychology: In essence the mind-body connection and how trauma and other impactful events are somatically experienced – through cues the body gives (like tension, breathing, or posture), people can learn to safely navigate and process difficult emotions without becoming overwhelmed. Somatic Psychology echoes what the Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches about the body:
The human body shares in the dignity of “the image of God”: it is a human body precisely because it is animated by a spiritual soul, and it is the whole human person that is intended to become, in body of Christ, a temple of the Spirit…” CCC 364
If indeed we are body and soul then what affects our soul will impact our bodies – and in somatic psychology when we work to heal our body we work to heal our soul as well
IFS Informed Techniques: Dr. Gerry Crete, Catholic Psychologist and Clinical Director of Transfiguration Counseling, in his book on IFS describes it this way "The basic premise of Internal Family Systems is that we have an inmost self and many parts of the self-system. These parts have their own distinct thoughts, feelings. perceptions, and memories." Parts of us are thought to be subpersonalities that are with us from birth and some develop when we need them - many times in crisis. We also have parts that are very helpful to us i.e. my mommy part that can love my children even though I may experience extreme fatigue in caring for them.
In Women's Behavioral Health Coaching we will help you become better acquainted with these parts and assist you in bringing peace and healing to them and therefore to your inmost Self where Jesus resides.
A NOTE ABOUT BEHAVIORAL HEALTH COACHING
Behavioral Health Coaching (BHC) at first glance can seem similar to psychological counseling, however these are distinct services. BHC at NK Catholic Coaching will be focused primarily on attempting to eliminate the relational “gaps” caused by past wounds we have experienced that hinder our deepening relationship with Christ who is the source of all healing. While evidence based traditionally therapeutic techniques will be taught and utilized, the goal is to coach clients through the process of learning. And, the expectation is that the client is emotionally healthy enough to implement these skills without becoming “stuck.” While Nellie does remain credentialed and certified as a therapist, her role here will be strictly as a Certified Catholic Behavioral Health Coach utilizing an integrative approach that is influenced by her counseling experience and training, spiritual direction, and marriage mentoring certification and training.